Something inspirational~~ Life is like a Busstop?!

Suddenly thought of this when I took a bus home earlier:

Life is like a busstop

Don't you find this saying so familiar? But do you actually ponder what this phrase means? Taking it literally, a busstop is where people wait for the bus that they plan to take to embark on a journey to a destination which they aimed to go. So how can we apply this phrase in our daily life?

Simple..

Look at it this way... The destination of our aim could be our career life, our relationship or anything that we planned to do. And what usually happens at a busstop? Well buses come and go, and we jolly well know in mind what kind (or rather number) of bus we want to take (just like our ideal job/partner). So when one crowded, old and non-airconditioned comes along we would often decide to wait for a 'better' one and thus waited. We always have the thought that the next bus will always be 'better', just like the other saying goes "the pasture will always be greener the other side".. but how certain are we to say that? Can we 'predict' what lies ahead of us? Can we be certain that the ideal one will definitely come into our life? Be it the ideal job or the ideal man... We must stop complaining and be contented with what we already have. Say for example, a worker will always complain that working at a particular company is tough and unbearable, thus decide to quit and seek another job. Another example will be a husband/wife complaining that their other half is not good enough, always comparing him/her with someone else's partner or some character in a movie, worse still, living in the past of their own life and compare their current partner with their previous one. Ironic isn't it? In the first place if the previous one was so good, why bother to change? But that's human.. that's how we will always think. In a way its good as it helps us to improve ourself by wanting to become better.. but at the same time, being so unappreciative/discontented in life will often cause us to bring hurt to others.

Back to the busstop.. So when a 'lousy' bus comes along, we thought we would definitely get a better if we wait for the next bus.. and the next bus.. and the next bus... and by the time the better one doesn't come, we are too pressed for time that we just have to board anyone that comes along.. even if its an even lousier one... Come to think of it, don't you think that this scenario is also applicable to relationship/career? Example, say we decided to leave our current partner in search for a better one (or to be with another one which we think is better), and when the better one doesn't come along, getting older and older.. and when time is running out, when we are pressured by people around us to settle down, we just got to settle with any one that comes along the way even if they are worse off than the one we left. Same goes for career. We leave the current job thinking that we can find a better one but not knowing there will never be a better one as we are always greedy and not satisfied. So when such things happen, we tend to regret... yes, the word is REGRET!. We often look back to think that why didn't we this why didn't we that.. but have you ever thought of it in the first place, why can't you just be more appreciative and contented with what you have? If you have made the decision to stick to what you already have and bend yourself to make sure that things go the smooth way, then you could also be satisfied and be happy.

Life is always about decision making. We can choose to decide what we want to be, who we want to be. We can choose to love, we can choose to bring hurt... what do you choose then?

Remember, life is never smooth sailing.. its through set backs that make us stronger.. its through the decisions we made that make us what we are. A marriage can be a happy one if we decide to make it one.. A job can be fulfilling and satisfying if we decide to appreciate and see meaning in what we are doing.

So the morale of the story:

"Make the right decision, be appreciative and thankful to what we have, and be contented..."
"The pasture is NOT always greener at the other side"
"The sky is NOT always brighter at the other part of the world"
"Life is full of uncertainties... so why not choose to be certain about it with what we are already certain of?"
"Sustaining a marriage is about decision making, not about feelings"
"Enjoying a piece of work is about understanding and knowing the meaning to it"
"If there is a will, there will always be a way"


In my case, I have made my decision and I am happy with it! :)

-End-

its been a long time.....

Quite sometime since my last post back in July... well, these 2 months flew by quickly...

So where shall I start... ok let's talk abit about work then... since that's probably where the bulk of my time is spent on.. hmmm... let's begin: well, I am still working in EY.. but just transferred to another department beginning of this month... to be honest, deep down I am regretting alittle cause life in the new department is a little tougher than what I imagined.. not that the people are not good, in fact people are very nice there. its just that the work is really new to me.. previously I have not taken any local tax law studies before... so everything is fresh from the start... need to do a lot of self learning.. and seeing that everyone else are so willing to sacrifice their personal time for work makes me very guilty for not being able (or rather not wanting) to do so... to me, work is work.. I definitely need to balance my life with work, gym, dramas and relaxing at home with my love ones. so really looking forward to every weekend.. but guess I will have to see how it goes.. perhaps I really do have to give up some freedom to climb far... that's reality... *tata*

Alright, next... Wedding... its really getting closer now... as of now, we are only left with 4 months to prepare... I would say most of the preparation are still undone though.. looks like we got to fasten up our pace... the things that are still pending are:

- wedding invitation cards (church and banquet)
- flowers for church
- my bridesmaids' dresses
- invitation list (now that I might have to invite people from my new department)
- wedding cakes
- misc. issues...

So hopefully we can be on time... guess more or less we know where to get the stuff... just need to contact those people... we are also done with our photography and bridal album... the photos are really nice.. so satisfied... and good thing, I don't look fat in the photos... *phew*.. really thank God!.. our rings are also ready.. we tailor-made them from this factory that makes jewelleries for those retail jewellery shops... and got a good deal too.. so whoever wants the contact, can get it from me..

Well.. guess that's about all to blog at the moment. need to catch an episode of my korean drama and then off to bed.. need to wake up at 5am tomorrow for gym before work... tired.. tired.. tired.. but good thing that this weekend is a looong weekend... :)

Ciaoz....

Its really difficult to churn out the invitation list...

Got to take into considerations of the feelings of those people who will be seated together; will they feel comfortable with their fellow guests on the table, etc. Or is it me that is worrying too much?

Anyway, since there's still much time left, guess I can do this slowly... *headache*

Going to source for some wedding bands later....

And once again, pray that it will not be a rainy day on Monday....

Sneak preview: Wedding Gowns....

Alright, after a long while... finally I am done with choosing my gowns... Will be going for my photoshoot session next monday... pray hard that it will not be a rainy day... anyway, enough of words, have a preview of my gowns! :)

(Front view - Outdoor White Gown)

(Back View - Outdoor White Gown)

(Actual day White Gown)

(Actual day Evening Gown)

The one I love best is still the blue evening gown... will post up the 'real' photos after the photoshoot!

Finally, we have decided on the bridal shop to use: Volans Couture.

So far, the reviews of Volans on Styleweddings have been good, and plus when we were there, the service provided was good and we are all satisfied with the gowns and photos. So hopefully *keeping our fingers crossed* that everything will turn out superb! :)

Now that we have settled one issue, and more or less done with the church and hotel banquet, the next issue to settle is our guest list, my gown and our weight! lol... time to lose weight.... for my once in a lifetime BIG day, I am going to put in 102%... :)

Alright, update again in time to come.

A leap to the next phase of life...

Its finally decided that 30th Jan 2010 will be the day for us to enter into the next phase of our life - marriage!

The topic seems so far, but yet so near. Can't believe that it is finally happening (as though I have been waiting for a long time).. anyway, for the past weekend, we have finally embarked on the preparation of the wedding.

Saturday was a tiring day for Nic cos he has got to 'accompany' me and his parents to survey some bridal shops. We went to a few of the shops along Tanjong Pagar road, but none of them were perfect (i.e. nice gowns + nice photography + reasonable price)... however we manged to shortlist a couple out of the few that we enquired: Digio & My Dream Wedding. Will have to continue to survey more bridal shops until we find the perfect one. The dateline for us to sign up the bridal package will be end of March cos after that we will have to start doing preparations for other stuff. And most importantly, I got to continue losing some weight before the wedding.. :)

As for today, Nic finally sat down for a formal dinner with my parents to ask for my hand in marriage.. hehe.. so now, everything is sort of confirmed. If nothing else goes wrong, we will be holding our wedding on 30th Jan 2010, OLPS Church for day and Meritus Mandarin ballroom for night!

Need to also RSVP my close friends to be my sister gang.. :)

And btw, work at EY has been good so far. Made a few friends at work. Am really happy to have found this job. May God continue to bless and guide me in my daily life! Amen~~

A start to my career path

Finally got a decent job! ;)

Started work at EY yesterday... mixture of feelings.... scared, anxious but yet happy to work in EY.

Anyway first day of work was quite bored... Didn't have much to do as everyone else was busy. So ended up reading notes and some tax guide for the day. At the end of the day, I was so mentally drained! lol... but today was alittle better. Went for a few hours of training with a senior and was briefly taught how to fill in the respective forms in order to calculate the taxable income. It was really confusing... so now I am a little worried I might not be able to perform as expected.

Nevertheless, will still try to do my best! ;) Never give up!! Never say die!!! hehe...

It has been a long while since my last post... Not that I am lazy, but just nothing significant to take note of. Today I am just too bored at work, so decided to just drop by and write a few stuff... Currently temping at Luxury Tours again. Suppose to be back for some project work.. but seems more like being a office-girl... Hate to say, but the past one week here has been quite a waste of time..

Anyway, went for an interview at EY last wed. Followed up with a phone call last friday and was told that I have been selected for the position. Was told that HR will call be by Mon, but now its already Tue and no call still... getting a little worried that something 'bad' might have happened and I may have lost the job without even starting it. :( *praying very very very hard to get the call soon*... Late is better than no call...

During the last weekend, we (Nic's family and myself) have been discussing about some serious issue... "Wedding" and "Renovation for Nic's house"... As we will be shifting in to stay with Nic's family after we are married, the parents are thinking of extending the house to make it more spacious for everyone.. especially there will be more than 10 people staying in there... so the plan is either to renovate the house first then hold the wedding, or to hold the wedding first then wait till economy is better then do up the house. We are seeing at the latter option, so started looking around for bridal places and hotels... Our choice of the big day is on my 25th birthday... but when we called up the hotel, it was already booked, so got to change to another date... tentatively will be in Jan 2010... anyway, still got lots of aspect to settle... so shall confirm the exact date later...

Sigh... now just want to get the call from EY.... *bless me*

Back in Singapore

Just arrived in Singapore... getting really hot and sweaty... :(

For the past few weeks in Melbourne, we have been spending most of our time fishing and catching up with mates...

New Year 2009

We welcomed 2009 in Lakes Entrance... spent a whole week there... had 3 days of good fishing, and the rest of the week, the weather had been bad hence no fishes caught. We spent those days playing scopa (Italian card game), and even gave Lazza a nickname, Cacca (which means shit in Italian), cause he was shit in Scopa even though he was meant to be our 'master'. We had lots of fun learning some italian words, and some italian culture.

Packing the House

After the week's break, we got back to Melbourne and started getting ready to return back to Singapore. We packed our stuff in boxes and luggage, shipped some back and the rest came with us on the plane. We spent approximately 2 days cleaning the house and officially bid farewell to the apartment on the 16th January. It was sad to leave the place, afterall it has been our home for 2 years...

Moving into Lazza's place (Parkdale)

After moving out of our apartment, we moved into Lazza's place and stayed there for a week. The week flew by so quickly as we spent most of our days going to the beach, shopping, drinking, eating and playing scopa.

Our flight back (SQ218 Depart 1.05am 23 January 2009)

Last night, Amar, Lazza and Andre took time off to send us to the airport. It was really nice of them and I am really very glad that Nic has got such a good bunch of soccer mates... and we managed to get so close to the extend that Lazza actually sobbed when we were entering the gates of the immigration. When Nic saw him crying, his tears too flowed uncontrollably. It was really a touching scene, and I was quite surprised as I didn't expect Lazza to be such an emotional person..

Alright, time to take a rest... the flight back was not a comfortable one as we travelled on the old SQ plane instead of the new 300ER plane.